Did I just do that?! It's a funny thing to think and I realize I think it often. Actions will arise out of what feels like an impulsive state, however I'm learning that they are often a conditioned state. Because of all the self development work I've done, I've subconsciously conditioned myself to action when I feel fear or am overthinking. That's not to say I do it all the time, no this will be a life long practice. Rather I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge it and drop some truth for you.
Intuition is something inherent in all of us. It's the internal knowing we use often to make decisions where we don't have all the answers. As we evolve, we can further tap into it to use even when we do have the answers - tapping into what's truly aligned to our greater good. Using intuition when we don't have the answers feels safe because we cannot hold ourselves fully accountable to the outcome as we used "guess" in our decision making. This is why it feels more natural. But where the true magic lies is when we use our intuition when having all the answers. There is no safety net from the outcome - we must own it fully. This is why aligning to our heart's desires, knowing ourselves, is key. This is where true fulfillment comes in - when we make decisions using our intuition aligned to our heart's desires.
How do we develop this? As the old saying goes, practice makes perfect. So how can you start practicing using your intuition more intentionally? Here are 3 few tips to follow:
Tip #1: Start small
Begin by using small decisions with little consequence of outcome. For example, if trying to decide on a movie or a restaurant. In this case you can ask yourself, "which one will serve me the most [joy] today?". Where joy can be replaced with any emotion/outcome you are seeking to achieve. This simple act of asking yourself, based on an outcome you desire, is a great way to tap into your inner desire.
Tip #2: Feel Into It
If when asking you aren't receiving an answer, it's because you are not feeling into it. Feeling into it simply means that you get quiet and ask from a place that is pure and objective - without judgement or preconceived notions. Simply close your eyes, ask the question silently to yourself, and feel the emotion of being open with gratitude to receive. Try asking with a smile - this helps to remove the judgement from the chatter in your mind.
Tip #3: Reinforce with Gratitude
Once you receive the answer, accept it and thank yourself. The self gratitude does a few things - subconsciously it rewards the basal ganglia (the brain's habit forming system) and consciously it reinforces the decision so you can cut off the "what ifs" from the other choices not selected.
So friends - start using your intuition today to tap into greater confidence in your decision making. Share your insights to help others!
Wishing you a life of purpose!
Jab, jab, jab - that's how this part year has felt. Sadly many of the punches landed resulting in me falling flat on my a$$. I got up each time for a sweat breath, only to be hit again. I've often asked myself, "How many rounds of this can I take?" The truth is life isn't willing to let up until we gain the lesson, which allows us to move forward.
So what is the lesson of 2 failed jobs, a failed relationship, isolation, loneliness, weight gain, and sugar addiction? Letting go! That has been the main message I see through my experiences, hear when I meditate and signs I see in my day to day life. I've had to let go of what I know about who I am and the world around me. I had to let go of my expectations of others because that always ends in disappointment. Had to let go of a relationship that was failing from the start that I changed myself to mold into only to learn that compromise doesn't mean changing yourself completely. Had to let go of feeling so excited about mentors in my life that I thought could really boost my career - only to be let down when their life got in the way, as humans do.
Some introspection is healthy here......
What I've Learned
I am a person who deeply desires and thrives off connection with others.
I require a lot of freedom and autonomy in my work and relationships.
My imagination is stronger than my determination has been and that has held me back.
I am a manifestation machine and yet I get in my own way due to fear.
I am more spiritual than I ever realized.
I am stronger than I ever realized.
There is a little girl in me that is dying for play and entertainment - I must listen to her more.
I have a calling as a mindset coach as evidenced by the many clients I've helped.
I am enough.
How Have I Grown?
I am more patient and understanding than I ever was before.
I am not giving away my power as easily.
My desire to be around growth minded people has pushed me to seek deeper connections.
Why Was I Brought to NYC?
I came here to: develop my passion for coaching, discover who I want to be in a relationship, what I'm looking for in a career and company culture, further cultivate my mindset practice, develop an insatiable habit for personal development and lead with what I want rather than what is available.
I've been playing small with my coaching and it's time to step up so I can help others who are struggling with the very things I have overcome.
I'm opening myself to new possibilities in work and life.
Life is truly what we make it. Every obstacle is an opportunity to learn and grow. Every setback is a redirection or reminder that we are on the wrong path. Follow your gut, listen to your heart and never stop going after what you truly desire.
Being in a transition has me constantly reflecting on who I am and what I'm about. From the time I was young I always had big dreams. When I stumbled upon Tony Robbins in 2009 I was immediately inspired and knew that I wanted to do a variation of what he was doing. This is when I started to take my dreams to a bigger state - into visualization. At the time I was working for a company and lived in a state that was the wrong culture fit. I found myself acting out against my values in a rebellious way which was my soul screaming, "GET ME OUT OF HERE!!" I put on some Tony Robbins tapes, did some work and decided to move back to where I was living before to hit reset.
I had moved without a job and used visualization to really "see" what my next role would be. I had some criteria and next thing you know I have 2 offers which paid more and had more responsibility. About 18 months in I knew that my career path in accounting wasn't feeding my soul and it would soon be time to transition. I had no idea what I wanted to do but knew aspects. Having had success with visualization, I was determined to take it to the next level and discovered vision boards. I made 2 boards, 1 for travel and 1 for career, and placed them where I could see daily.
However I wouldn't see any movement for 6 months!!
Just like anything we put up, eventually they blended into the background and I forgot about them. Sure I would see them every time I was in bed but I stopped paying attention. One day I was struck with a bug that I really wanted to go to Thailand. I've always wanted to see all parts of the world but for some reason I was really keen on this country. One month later I'm on a plane solo for what would be an epic spiritual journey (I'll explain more in another post). When I came back and was going through my pictures, I noticed a statue that looked oddly familiar, which was the same feeling I had seeing it while at the Grand Palace in Bangkok. I look up at my boards and low and behold, there is the statue on my travel board. EUREKAH! This stuff really works!! I then set to work with my intention for my new career.
8 months later I had somehow managed to get an interview for a role at Amazon. I had no background in tech or the role in which I was interviewing for. Between the help of friends revamping my resume and preparing for the interview, I was ready! It was December and I had my first few rounds of phone screens. A few weeks pass, anxiously, and I land at the corporate headquarters for onsite interviews in early January. These lasted all day and I felt terrific after them! I just knew the job was mine.
But I would have to wait for it......
As one normally does, I followed up with the recruiter weekly regarding the outcome of these fantastic interviews. Each time I was told a decision had not been made yet with no further clarity. 3 weeks pass and I'm now anxious and nervous. By mid-February (6 weeks later) I was told to write it off by friends and family. However I was not taking silence as a no and continued to visualize myself in the role. 2 weeks later I finally got the call I was waiting for and an AMAZING offer; 30% more than I was making! Once again the power of visualization and vision boards had helped me manifest my dreams.
So get out your poster board, glue stick, scissors, magazine/pictures and 8th grade creativity and go to work!
Wishing you a life of purpose!
It's Saturday night and I'm feeling like I should be going out in the world and socializing but my body desires to stay in bed and watch tv. Fear creeps in, "Am I becoming depressed? What's wrong with me?" The reality is my body just needs down time as I have been processing a lot of emotions lately. When you are doing hard work your body requires rest. If you push your body physically extremely hard you will require downtime to rest. Processing emotions is no different; it just feels like it is because you weren't sweating physically.
Changing our patterns and behaviors is quite a strenuous exercise. Habits you've built up over years which no longer serve you take a lot of attention and practice to break. This mental energy can be exhausting, much like coming home from a hard day at the office. I liken this work to a caterpillar that is breaking out of its cocoon to become a butterfly. The caterpillar has to go through a painful process to break through the cocoon in order to strengthen the wings so it can fly. Without the struggle the butterfly would not exist and would die after exiting the cocoon. Just like a muscle has to be torn to be built up, you have to struggle in order to become a better version of yourself. So accept the struggle and if you need a break, listen to your body and take it; even if it's on a weekend night.
Wishing you a life of purpose!
Remember when you were a little kid and you would play with your imagination? Remember how fun it was to make up places, events and people in your epic journeys? As we got older we graduated to playing with objects more and less of our imagination was used. Then as adults we somehow forgot how to imagine - well most of us.
I'm sure you catch yourself dreaming about what you want at times and then maybe you shake it off and call it silly. But why are you doing that? We all dream and it's healthy. In fact, we cannot get to where we are going without first visualizing it. Likely you do this all the time and never realized you were using the visualization technique regularly. It's a simple process which is very effective. All it requires is a quiet mind and an imagination. Try it right now, close your eyes and visualize a red feather. How close is it? How big is it? How bright is it? The more questions you ask yourself, the more you will see this image evolve. Now do the same thing but with a goal in mind. Do you see that perfect partner? Job? Trip? Experience? I challenge you to try every day to visualize something important to you for just a few minutes, ideally when you wake up to allow your subconscious the full day to look for and help manifest it. Seeing is believing they say, so see it and believe it! And let your subconscious do the rest!
Wishing you a life of purpose!
There she was again interrupting me while I was trying to read. "Just do it!" she proclaimed. "Do what?" I would answer, never knowing what it was this voice was constantly trying to direct me to do. "You know" she softly whispered. Time and again I have been ignoring this voice, swatting it away like a gnat in the tropics while you're trying to enjoy delicious, fresh fruit. She was my intuition and she had enough waiting while I dragged my feet and made every excuse possible why it wouldn't work or was a silly idea.
Then came reality like a hard slap across the face. My supposed dream job which moved me all the way to NY from Seattle turned out to be anything but and I made the hard decision to leave it. Oddly a sense of relief followed which enabled me to focus on getting my life back. A life I had sacrificed to the corporate gods in exchange for benefits and a 6 figure salary. I had become my title and paycheck. Somehow I always knew I was worth more and so that nagging voice would taunt me.
The decision didn't come lightly and without resistance, rather it came in a 10 round Tyson biting the ear type of fight where eventually the old me was TKO'd. My body, mind and spirit had enough! I sought to regain my health through yoga, meditation and journaling. Let me say that is the BEST home remedy to start healing the spirit and soul. I then attended any type of group that was focused on living life with purpose, entrepreneurship, and networking. The purpose of this part of the journey was to constantly expose myself to others who were on the same path or who had already figured it out. I was obsessed with learning how others made their passion their living. Having a finance background I was skeptical about the investment, ROI (return on investment), and the potential earnings. I quickly realized what I have heard time and again, if there's a will there is a way.
Still fear chased me in the form of negative questions: "People will see you as a fraud", "How can you obtain business being so new to NY?", "What credentials do you have?" etc. It was through a series of nuggets received from people attending these meetings where I gained the confidence to push these thoughts aside and move forward. I have over 10 years of life experience helping everyone from friends, family, strangers and colleagues navigate their lives and relationships. I was always the friend who coached through relationship turmoil, "what should I do with my life?" questions and how to navigate corporate politics. I had been the one encouraging people all along to live their truth and yet here I was ignoring mine.
It took some "Aha!" moments before I realized it was time to dive in. It started when I was meditating on attracting love into my life and over 14 days friends were sending me words of encouragement through Facebook posts, cards, books and calls unexpectedly. This helped me realize the love I already had which would also be the catalyst for the belief and support I desperately needed to push forward. Then I decided to get a life coach as I had one before when switching careers and found the ROI to be 10 fold. My coach encouraged me to listen to my voice and ignore the haters in my head. I didn't need to be fully certified before I started my practice, no coach ever is. While researching coaching programs, I became fearful of the additional debit I would need to accomplish however this fear was addressed when a person I met at one of these events suggested I get clients now to pay for the program. Then I met a business man who suggested I create business cards with what I intended for my business and start handing them out at the events I would attend. All of these wonderful nuggets taught me that you can start anything you want NOW! There is certainly hustle involved but if there's a will, there's a way.
Society has conditioned us to live a certain way: white picket fence, house, married with 2-3 kids, etc. However this life isn't what some of us dream of so if climbing the corporate ladder gets us there, why bother?! I initially thought living my life authentically would take courage to subside all the naysayers but shortly I realized that most of the hater talk was all in my head. You likely have a strong support system around you and for those who aren't it becomes obvious who you need to remove from your life. I understand family can't be removed but you will learn to be fiercer in your decision and won't require their approval. Finally you have nothing to lose by starting in even small ways to live a life with purpose. Live it as if it already exists and watch it manifest for you.
Wishing you a life of purpose!